I logged on to Elle magazine yesterday, hyped and ready to fire off a feisty email to the editor complaining about the offensive remarks made by French film director, François Ozon, at the Cannes film festival, when – to my surprise and delight – I saw that an uproar had already begun and the e-mails were pouring in from irate women. Hooray! French women have finally woken up! This is indeed good news. Up until now, it was always someone of a different nationality (usually me) who had to complain about the sexist attitudes in this country. Why? Because French women had a tendency to keep quiet over such matters. (I’m convinced that it’s because of a system of patriarchal Catholic rule which indoctrinates docility and lies at the foundation of French schooling here.)
I don’t do docile.
So what exactly were the offensive remarks of François Ozon, Parisian film director? While in Cannes promoting his new film entitled Jeune et Jolie (Young and Beautiful), a story about a 17-year girl from an affluent Parisian family who decides to prostitute herself “for fun“, Ozon said to reporters: “It’s a fantasy of many women to do prostitution.”
Oh, really? And whose fantasy might this be? Yours or women’s?
I don’t recall fantasizing about being a prostitute when I was 17. I was too busy going to high school, working part-time at Woolco, and having fun like any normal, balanced 17-year old. Recreational marijuana-smoking was about as far as I went, not recreational prostitution.
The feminist group FEMEN tweeted that it would like to present Ozon with the “2013 Golden Asshole Award”.
What’s most insulting, aside from the obvious, is Ozon’s apparent frivolity as he trivializes prostitution. Tragically, men, women and children the world over must resort to prostitution in order to survive. Drive a car one night through the notorious Bois de Boulogne, situated 20 minutes from my apartment, and you’ll see prostitutes who, I’m guessing, would be baffled by Mr. Ozon’s film. Had Ozon taken the subject matter seriously, he could have done a different kind of film that addresses the reality of prostitution: at least it would be credible. But he doesn’t have the honesty to do such a project. His empty film depicting a minor as a whore because she wants to “feel alive” is nothing more than voyeurism and male fantasy. Lay claim to your own fantasies, Monsieur Ozon; don’t foist them onto women and say they are ours.
Two events brusquely jolted the French out of their reverie vis-a-vis their archaic attitudes towards women: the arrest of Dominique Strauss-Kahn in New York in May 2011 and the arrival onto French soil of the feminist Ukrainian group, FEMEN, at about the same time (see my March 7 post re these brave topless warriors.) On a Sunday morning, over croissants and steaming bowls of café au lait, the entire nation stared with collective incredulity at their TV screens. What were they looking at? Surreal images played over and over for all the world to see of their well-known countryman and respected economist – who was not only the head of the IMF in Washington, but candidate to be the next president of France! – handcuffed, unshaven and flanked on either side by burly New York policemen before being shoved into the back of a car and driven off to prison on charges of alleged criminal sexual assault. This was reality TV at its most horrific. It was, as the French press called it, an electroshock.
There’s nothing like a pair of handcuffs and the clang of a Rikers Island prison gate to shrivel a sex offender’s dick.
Flash-forward two years: it took half a year for the French to come out of denial. During that time we had to endure endless TV talk shows (what, again?) and long, tortuous, psycho-babble written in weekly magazines dissecting what was so obvious to us, the outsiders, and seemingly oblivious to them. Two-thirds of the country believed it was a Sarkozy-orchestrated plot; that – in collusion with the French-owned Sofitel hotel where the assault took place – Sarkozy had planned the whole thing in an attempt to sabotage DSK’s presidency bid. And then, after denial comes derision. Now an Abel Ferrara film called Welcome to New York portraying Strauss-Kahn and his sex-crazed antics has been made starring Gérard Depardieu and Jacqueline Bisset. No-one knows the release date of this film, but when and if it finally comes out, you can be sure that movie theatres will be packed in France.
Had the Strauss-Kahn / Nafissatou Diallo calamity occurred in Paris it would’ve been swiftly silenced, just like Strauss-Kahn’s prior transgressions had been silenced by the practice of a mafia-like code of honour here called omerta. For decades (we later learned) DSK had been groping and harassing women. Either none of the victims had come forward to complain, or they had come forward but were jeered at and dismissed by the macho men’s club that runs the Gallic corridors of power. The wake-up call that France sorely needed to shake itself out of its dusty, last-century torpor were those TV images of DSK in handcuffs played over and over with the eyes of the outside world looking on: judging and criticizing unacceptable French behaviour that had carried on, unchallenged, for centuries; unchallenged by both men and women. Better late than never, I suppose.
I wonder if Monsieur Ozon anticipated such an outcry over his comments and film? Perhaps it was a publicity stunt to garner more attention for an otherwise forgettable movie? I almost hope so because if his comments were an unconscious revelation of what men, French or any nationality, think women really desire, it’s quite alarming. Perhaps the concept of his film is a general fantasy of men, I wouldn’t know, and it doesn’t matter.
Do French men want their daughters to be treated as objects in everyday, real life? Likely not. I’m hoping that no father would want their daughters to be treated as objects. You’d be surprised, however, how easily some men can disconnect, in their minds, the blood relations they enjoy with their daughters and the sex relations they engage in with females the same age (or younger) than their daughters. One example is sex tourism where white Western men travel to Third World countries to have sex with young women and even child prostitutes. I know this is extreme, not to mention repugnant, but it nevertheless exists.
So I find it odd that the sexual tone in France is explained as the “fault” of women for being too passive & compliant. Not fault, “unwitting complicity” would be a better word. As I said in my blog, by keeping quiet, women condone such behaviour.
Men know when they are being harrasers and blaming their behavior on women is simply refusing to correctly assign responsibility. I agree.
I’m pretty sure men are smart and capable enough to control themselves. Not all men. Human beings are not 100% rational; we’re driven by all sorts of emotional and sometimes compulsive desires. Look where Dominique Strauss-Kahn’s compulsions led him: once a distinguished, brainy economist, university professor and head of IMF, now a divorced, unemployed washout. Look at Michael Douglas, David Duchovny, Tiger Woods…..all self-confessed sex addicts who couldn’t control themselves…and admitted it.
Women should not have to take on more responsibility….Yes, we do. It’s up to us to respond to and denounce all forms of machismo (domination of women, aggressiveness, etc.) Why? Because it affects women and children and, ultimately, men themselves. No-one wins in the end. It’s a constant battle. If women don’t do it, who will? What’s scary is that the more empowered women become, the stronger the macho backlash.
With the new government it sounds as if things are moving in the right direction despite a random throwback like Ozon. A random throwback? Are you serious? Barbara, where do you live? In the majority of countries around the world – France included – sexism is RAMPANT, not RANDOM.
Dear Juliet:
Yes, you are right on all counts! Of course women will HAVE be the ones who have to fight sexism and do more but we SHOULD not have to. I strongly believe that men do know that they are doing something wrong when they abuse or denigrate women in the US and western European countries. Really, they know better and their excuses afterward or when they are caught are just lame. I certainly can’t speak about the situation in other parts of the world. My only knowledge of the lives of women in places such as the Iran and India is through the media. I admit it is hard for me to even understand the thought processes and cultural mores that are accepted in some places.
Also, I should not have used the word random – probably disgusting is more appropriate. Ozon seems like another one of those men who knows better, does what he wants anyway and then displaces responsibility. I am glad his comments are instigating a backlash.
I realize that I am lucky and have not encountered a lot of real piggish men out there in the world. I have a young daughter (and son) and I would garrison her right to be a respected human being and fulfill her intellectual potential as well as her hopes and dreams with every bit of strength I have! The thought of her being treated like an object is repulsive. Of course, I raise my son to respect everyone around him and we often talk about, dissect even, images of women they both see in the media.
I adore your blog and think you are a wonderful writer and so intelligent & observant. It’s clear I must refine my thinking and writing so it reflects how I really feel. Truly, I would hate to aid any sexism by not fully analyzing my own thoughts and words. Thank you for your response and making me examine my own thinking more closely!
Gee, Barbara, this is the most incisive, and flattering, comment I’ve received so far. It’s nice to know I have fans out there. Thank you, it was a pleasure exchanging viewpoints with you!
“There’s nothing like a pair of handcuffs and the clang of a Rikers Island prison gate to shrivel a sex offender’s dick.”
Too funny!! Keep up the good work, Juliet.
good stuff!